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Perception vs Perfection / Life coaching services

Each of us views things from our standpoints. Based on how we have been moulded and fashioned our levels of expectation and perfection are from that point of reference. The address to your home may be one but the routes to same may be plenty. It would depend on how you would want to navigate, manoevre and reach your destination.  Some roads may have a lot of traffic, some roads may not be well laid, some roads may just be narrow lanes. Different individuals would take different routes depending on their familiarity and comfort.

Television shows portray different models and promote various beauty products and we get lured into believing these are the most perfect individuals in shape and size. We tend to compare and develop a sense of insecurity and believe we need to be something different. We hold impossible standards of perfection and try to market and package ourselves accordingly maybe to just impress or retain our jobs.  These are bound to be gruesome as it’s far from reality and we get swept by fear.  TV reality shows play for an hour a day but our reality is round the clock!

External appearances can be very deceptive. Still waters run deep. Never judge a book by its cover. We have heard these phrases. How we present our unique version of our inner beauty would definitely reflect in the outer as well. Even with flaws we can be appealing and graceful. How we embrace ourselves, deepen our wisdom and value maturity will reflect in our demeanor and poise.

Meet our life coach to understand how to shift your perspectives and increase your self-worth.

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Body and You / Counselling

Our caption reads AWARENESS INITIATOR…this can be triggered either through the body or through the mind. Both are inter dependent, inter linked intertwined. For people with analytical skills who find it easier with logic and philosophy it might be easier to initiate aware ness through the mind whereas with sensitive personalities bringing about an awareness through the body might be more practical.  Yes it is  good to question, as our minds need reasons and answers to feel convinced and justified.  But this is not a general rule that fits all. Each one of us has different bearings and different levels of understanding and consciousness.

We therefore relate to the world from where we are.

Speaking about awareness…we can see the body. Its visible . We can relate to pain , rash, changes in bowel movements,  discolored eyes , brittle nails, etc, The body is a movement of energies. Dis-ease is a result when this movement is not smooth or blocked in the body. Our body immediately communicates to us in the form of contractions, spasms, stiffness, heaviness, fever etc.  Physical signs are the body’s ways to highlight an imbalance. The body even lets us know when we are hungry and thirsty!!

Every choice that we make, every habit we create, every breath we take, every move we formulate, every action/word/thought/intention we fabricate is resulting/impacting/determining some change in the body.  The imbalance creates disharmony in the body showing we have moved away from the natural source of energy.

Energy depletion can also be caused from our self-sabotaging thought patterns and limiting belief systems. Yoga asanas , breathing practices help in connecting and making subtle changes to our wiring

To reconnect , restore to  true and vital self call us .

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Dis-Connect / Life coaching services

We all belong to the same source. But somewhere through the ages we have got disconnected. We are caught up in our worldly affairs and nitty gritties. We have gotten corrupt and polluted .We look for short cut methods and quick money. We complicate, compound and make our lives and living so complex that we are stuck in a maze. And we keep entangling ourselves. Our lives have started revolving around trivial matters…that can be really mundane but we give them a lot of importance. Most of the time we are bothered and worried about what others will say and what opinions are being formed about us. .Little do we realize that those opinions are really insignificant for our evolution. We can’t get into another’s shoes to decide how they feel or what they are going through. As they say every brick has a story to tell. Others opinions and views are based on their perceptions. We can all think and opine only according to our experiences and exposure.  Its best to respect what each has to offer.

That’s why there are different people who form a business organization. There are different perspectives. The whole idea of a brain storming session is to hear people out and to assess their viewpoints. It’s best not to condone or demean another. Giving the other the benefit of doubt is wise. However, how long a rope we are willing to extend is another story. We do not have to be door mats.

Falling into a groove, maintaining discipline, training and respecting the culture, decorum and grooming are essentials for an organized functioning.

This holds good both in a family household and corporate business houses. To connect and reconnect,   reach us at Tatvamasi for further details .

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Unplug / Counselling services

We keep checking our phones to see how charged they are… lower the charge the more difficult it is to receive or send messages. We feel so flustered and disconnected until are phones get charged again and heave a sigh of relief!.  We allow a gadget to control our lives and then literally get controlled by it. This is the same inference with social media.  This addiction is resulting in a disconnect from our realities and we start living in a virtual world or a world of emotional disconnect!!

The analogy of a mobile phone to our lives is to relate how we need to keep ourselves charged and at the same time realize how an addiction to the hand held technological device can be addictive  and draining our energies. We too get depleted in our energy field .This can be caused by lack of exercise, poor nutrition, deficiencies, addiction (substance, technology, food, any obsession )

Distancing oneself,, getting into a shell , being in closed doors , are signs of being in an emotional disconnect. An extroverted individual may suddenly  feel an emotional isolation which may result in lack of sharing emotions, withholding affection. The individual may go through a fear of rejection and discomfort and start forming his own cocoon.  This may be a reason from depression, distress or disease. These are symptomatic behaviours of feeling of emotional disconnect.

Emotional detachment can be a positive behavior which allows a person to react calmly to highly emotional circumstances. It can allow people to maintain boundaries, psychic integrity and avoid undesired impact by or upon others, related to emotional demands. As such it is a deliberate mental attitude .

Emotional disconnect refers to an inability to connect with others on an emotional level. It is a kind of avoidance ,escapism or numbing without addressing the triggers.

Reach us to understand the difference between a disconnect and detachment….

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Agree to Disagree /Psychological counselling

Adjust, Adapt, Compromise and Agree to disagree

Life is a flow, life is a process, and life is work in progress. We are constantly being constructed. In this journey we tend to find fault, complain, grumble, get annoyed, get irritated, feel disturbed, protest, and express dissatisfaction

There will be diverse opinions and views to what I write here, may resonate with some and others may find it debatable. Similarly at all times everywhere we are in different situations thrown among many different kinds of people from different backgrounds.. People may be from varied intelligent quotients and emotional intelligence. This makes it tough for us to adjust and we find reasons for complaining and expect things to be in a particular way or the behaviors to be altered. . Constantly being bombarded with assorted stimuli we develop our likes , dislikes and preferences.

Such is the way of the mind and human behavior. It is personally left to us how peaceful we would like our life processes to be and how we would like to assimilate our experiences. The beauty of the human mind is that it has the capability to adapt and forget. There are a number of scenarios for example on a broader perspective the demonetization or the rising prices of petrol…we are left with no choice but to adjust and adapt.  We make the changes

Marriage is a classic example for adjusting and adapting. This becomes necessary as lifestyles are multifarious.  However compromising may feel like succumbing. It is done in order to avoid a conflict. It involves 2 parties and 2 egos. Depending on an understanding shared a compromise may have a positive or a negative impact..

Some Examples of Adjusting in day to day life

  • Grooming appropriately to work to maintain office decorum
  • Waking up early to reach school on time
  • Cooking according to the wants of your family members
  • Being with the kids at the park although you would want to stay home

Some Examples of Compromising

  • Foregoing your education because of marital pressure
  • Sacrificing your career because your husband does not want you to work
  • Following a dress code which makes you uncomfortable

Change is a constant factor and it is ideal for us to continuously recreate ourselves in order to meet the needs of the constantly changing environment..

Reach us at Tatvamasi to find ways to adjust and adapt peacefully without compromising.

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Happy Parents raise Happy Children / Life coaching for Parents

Parenting is like on the job training. It is a skill. No matter how many books we read or watch other parents, each of us deal with different emotions, at different stages and different ages. There is a huge mix match and blend of scenarios. Dealing with emotions that too of children can be a challenging affair. Parents  tend to over pamper their children to cover their guilt factor or get too possessive based on some in -built fears they may be breeding . They misinterpret that over pampering and possessiveness are liked by the kids but in fact it leads to an adverse effect.. Misplaced adoration takes a toll on children. They tend to get manipulative.  Children are not able to communicate due to their age constrictions and parents are not able to comprehend due to their cluttered minds. This results in a complicated and difficult situation for both the parents and children.

But the bottom line is parents are the best coach for their children. Children watch and observe their parents and tend to imitate. Even if a child goes through coaching there is a substantial amount of time spent with the parents and teachers during the counselling session.

A coach may suggest ways and methods as remedies for   a child with behavioural issues.  However it is upto parents to monitor the progress of their own children to provide feedback to the coach. As the primary agent in the socialisation process in the upbringing and exposure of the child,  parents need to take up the onus and responsibility to lead their wards on.

Children need timely attention, space to grow up and the right exposures. Meet our Life coach Mr Praveen Saanker to get equipped with parenting tools to maintain a balance in your hectic life.

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Serenity and Synchronicity / Life Coaching

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.

Without any connotation to religion  and religious beliefs this prayer carries a lot of wisdom. There are some things which are in our control and some not in our control. We usually under-estimate ourselves. That can be due to low self-esteem, low self-confidence, negative remarks made to us, situations of failure and the like.

There are DNA imprints we are born with. We cannot change our physical appearance, the color of our skin, and our growth and development. Like a zebra  stripes or a leopards dots are inherent to its very physicality. Similarly laws of the universe like the earths revolution and rotation, the expanse of the sky, the movements of the clouds are all natural. This brings us to the fact that the only thing we can change is ourselves…our thoughts, our behavior which will in turn reflect on our characters and our fortunes.

We need to get out of our comfort zones to make the changes required. Ask the right questions, write a log, and chat with a counsellor. .…often times it is our thinking and thoughts which make us feel uncomfortable and disturbed. We are hurt by our own thoughts. The most practical solution in this case would be to have a dialogue with the person, you think is ,causing you discomfort. Or to realize through self-assessment and self-awareness that they are just thoughts and will pass away like clouds.

It does call for a lot of strength practice and discipline to unlearn and train . Reach us at tatvamasi for a dialogue with the Life Coach to understand HOW to get out of your own way!

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Simple Living High Thinking

Mental diseases are far more serious than physical diseases.  In physical diseases, the patient suffers the pain and all its consequences, while in the case of mental  diseases, not only the  patient, but the relatives too. In some situations the society too is in agony . It has to  face the onslaughts of the patients acts.. Take for example the case of a psychopathic killer , a sex-maniac, an alcoholic, a rapist. They make the life of the people near them unbearable. Similarly   a paranoid dominating abusive  father  can  have  a life long  negative  effect on  his family not only on his wife but on young  children. Children form their thought patterns by emulating parents. The formative years are impressionable and these images leave a  photographic memory.

To relieve the pain and trauma one looks for a tangible solution. Going through hypnotism . past life regression and psychotherapy are ways the patient can be treated depending on the severity. Sometimes the patient may need the help of a psychotherapist for medicines to be prescribed to keep their minds calm and tranquilized. Life styles changes become imperative for rehabilitation.

The Psychologists in Chennai through Tatvamasi will clear the path for the patient through counselling, awakening the individual to the dark areas and enabling them to step out of their shadows.

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Being Mindfull 0r Being Mindful

The mind is a thought making factory with its machines and operations running continuously. Great seers have always said understand the nature and functioning of the mind first. It is the thought process that causes us pain and suffering. Of course never ending desires and long list of temptations are a part and parcel of the thought patterns. Our minds are full of thoughts sucking into our energies like parasites. We feel tired because of our thoughts.

Modern life with   its tensions   and complexities, and cut-throat   competition,    gives rise to a vast multitude   of mental ailments. Man has become a victim to technology .Instead of capitalizing on its advantages he is getting addicted causing a series of illness  .Modern man is afflicted with different allergies and exposed to enough pollution of air, sound, water and his own warped thinking. Limited perspectives, narrow outlooks, greed, jealousy hinder his progress. This results in stress, anxiety, sleep disorders, eating disorders and other psychosomatic ailments.

Modern  man has a weak ego, that  is  why  he  lacks  the  required  immunity towards  these  disease  Even worse  is the modern philosophy of materialism   of going  on  amassing material wealth. Definition of success needs to be redefined. Comparing and contrasting with the lifestyles of others increases the levels of anxiety and stress.

Man is fast losing his essential human like joy satisfaction   laughter patience and self-control. He is in a trap in the fast paced web and caught in a vicious circle.

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Coloured Lenses / Life Coaching

What you see is what you get

Scientific perspective

Most colors that we see are a combination of the three primary colors of light: red, green, and blue. These “additive” colors can mix together to form other familiar hues such as yellow, magenta, and cyan. Colored lenses change our perception of the world’s colors by acting like filters: they absorb all colors of light except for whatever color the lenses are. For example, glasses with blue lenses absorb green light and red light but allow blue light (and blue-containing colors such as purple) to pass through into the eye. While wearing blue lenses, objects that normally appear green and red will become harder to see. In other words, when we look through colored lenses, we’re actually seeing what the world would look like with some of the primary colors of light removed.

There are different perspectives to LOOKING THROUGH COLORED LENSES

It can be a biased view

It can be viewing only the pleasant

It is not seeing reality

Viewing through distorted thinking

Magnified view

Narrow outlook

There are many shades to life,  many dimensions and many directions.  Its what suits us ,what we resonate wiith ,is what we see . It’s a matter of choice and perspective.

A lens can help you getter a better view, closer view or distorted view. Looking through rose colored lenses is a cliched perspective where a person sees only the pleasant things and naively overlooks the unpleasant. .Or you may get a magnified view and see the larger picture.

Lenses are changeable . there are different qualities and grades – how would you like your viewpoint to be or your point of view.

Come meet our visionary Mr Praveen Saanker for a broader perspective.