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Perception vs Perfection / Life coaching services

Each of us views things from our standpoints. Based on how we have been moulded and fashioned our levels of expectation and perfection are from that point of reference. The address to your home may be one but the routes to same may be plenty. It would depend on how you would want to navigate, manoevre and reach your destination.  Some roads may have a lot of traffic, some roads may not be well laid, some roads may just be narrow lanes. Different individuals would take different routes depending on their familiarity and comfort.

Television shows portray different models and promote various beauty products and we get lured into believing these are the most perfect individuals in shape and size. We tend to compare and develop a sense of insecurity and believe we need to be something different. We hold impossible standards of perfection and try to market and package ourselves accordingly maybe to just impress or retain our jobs.  These are bound to be gruesome as it’s far from reality and we get swept by fear.  TV reality shows play for an hour a day but our reality is round the clock!

External appearances can be very deceptive. Still waters run deep. Never judge a book by its cover. We have heard these phrases. How we present our unique version of our inner beauty would definitely reflect in the outer as well. Even with flaws we can be appealing and graceful. How we embrace ourselves, deepen our wisdom and value maturity will reflect in our demeanor and poise.

Meet our life coach to understand how to shift your perspectives and increase your self-worth.

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Mental Make-Up / Counselling

We are familiar with the words make up and made up. Many advertisements on beauty and clothing are constantly displayed at various places which entice us. Packaging and marketing strategies play a great role in attracting our attentions. We get tempted very easily and succumb to these allurements. With the exposure to social media, children, men and women are exposed to cosmetics and beauty products. Parlors and salons thrive in business with people wanting to look good and feel good altering their appearances or textures of the body. Beauty products are used to enhance the attraction quotient.

We do spend a lot of time money and effort for our physical appearance.

However what efforts are you making for your mental make-up?

Are you masking yourself ?

What is it that you are hiding?

If so why?

What are the pre-conceived notions you are carrying ?

Are there any old resentments or ego clashes?

Is your emotional baggage weighing you down?

Are you clinging and clutching to limiting ideas?

How rigid are you with your beliefs?

Are  you willing to break down the barriers ?

Are you open to letting the walls crumble?

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Based on our experiences we form are own belief systems and tend to make that our guideline for future Beliefs are thoughts in our head that have formed an image of the world, that we work with. But it is not reality.

Meet our life coach to understand how to remove the paint from your mind…

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Are you Boxing yourself? / Life coaching

Are you getting caught up with roles and identities?

Are you labelling yourself?

Are you getting compartmentalized?

Do you feel trapped?

Have you put yourself in a box?

Kicking your own ass for an exercise routine or to push yourself from procrastinating is different from boxing yourself.

We fix ourselves in certain roles, move and behave accordingly. We become specialist moms, dads or managers. Or we can be a part of a group and follow the flock mentality. This limits are thinking patterns. We tend to identify ourselves with the group and abide by whatever the group does.  It influences us completely dictating terms on dress codes, life style’s, food habits, dos and don’ts. It can get very stringent following strict rules and regulations.

Labelling is not a healthy sign.  We are influenced by many different factors like our genes, socialization process, peer group, environment, education etc. We are continuously changing and evolving. By getting labelled we put ourselves into a trap of thoughts and belief’s.  This impacts our self–concept and self-worth.

Depending on how people are labelling us or we are labelling ourselves we tend to identify ourselves with that tag and behave accordingly.  This gradually starts affecting our lifestyles. Labelling can be both positive and negative.

Each of us is unique. We need to be aware of this aspect and not put ourselves into a sticky situation. We do not belong to any classified or specific category. One word, one adjective cannot be descriptive of us.  We have varied personality traits and characteristics.

If you do feel labelled /tagged/trapped call us to break free …

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Dis-Connect / Life coaching services

We all belong to the same source. But somewhere through the ages we have got disconnected. We are caught up in our worldly affairs and nitty gritties. We have gotten corrupt and polluted .We look for short cut methods and quick money. We complicate, compound and make our lives and living so complex that we are stuck in a maze. And we keep entangling ourselves. Our lives have started revolving around trivial matters…that can be really mundane but we give them a lot of importance. Most of the time we are bothered and worried about what others will say and what opinions are being formed about us. .Little do we realize that those opinions are really insignificant for our evolution. We can’t get into another’s shoes to decide how they feel or what they are going through. As they say every brick has a story to tell. Others opinions and views are based on their perceptions. We can all think and opine only according to our experiences and exposure.  Its best to respect what each has to offer.

That’s why there are different people who form a business organization. There are different perspectives. The whole idea of a brain storming session is to hear people out and to assess their viewpoints. It’s best not to condone or demean another. Giving the other the benefit of doubt is wise. However, how long a rope we are willing to extend is another story. We do not have to be door mats.

Falling into a groove, maintaining discipline, training and respecting the culture, decorum and grooming are essentials for an organized functioning.

This holds good both in a family household and corporate business houses. To connect and reconnect,   reach us at Tatvamasi for further details .

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Unplug / Counselling services

We keep checking our phones to see how charged they are… lower the charge the more difficult it is to receive or send messages. We feel so flustered and disconnected until are phones get charged again and heave a sigh of relief!.  We allow a gadget to control our lives and then literally get controlled by it. This is the same inference with social media.  This addiction is resulting in a disconnect from our realities and we start living in a virtual world or a world of emotional disconnect!!

The analogy of a mobile phone to our lives is to relate how we need to keep ourselves charged and at the same time realize how an addiction to the hand held technological device can be addictive  and draining our energies. We too get depleted in our energy field .This can be caused by lack of exercise, poor nutrition, deficiencies, addiction (substance, technology, food, any obsession )

Distancing oneself,, getting into a shell , being in closed doors , are signs of being in an emotional disconnect. An extroverted individual may suddenly  feel an emotional isolation which may result in lack of sharing emotions, withholding affection. The individual may go through a fear of rejection and discomfort and start forming his own cocoon.  This may be a reason from depression, distress or disease. These are symptomatic behaviours of feeling of emotional disconnect.

Emotional detachment can be a positive behavior which allows a person to react calmly to highly emotional circumstances. It can allow people to maintain boundaries, psychic integrity and avoid undesired impact by or upon others, related to emotional demands. As such it is a deliberate mental attitude .

Emotional disconnect refers to an inability to connect with others on an emotional level. It is a kind of avoidance ,escapism or numbing without addressing the triggers.

Reach us to understand the difference between a disconnect and detachment….

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Labelling / Psychological Counselling

A label is a mandatory aspect of a product.  Marketers use labels for identification of a product. It enhances the packaging. The label gives complete details about the product. A customer can get attracted to a product by a creatively designed label. The label carries the image of the product.

We tend to do this to people based on their characteristics. If we notice a repeated behavior by an individual we call them descriptive names like chatter box, bully, bookworm, etc.

We tend to compartmentalize people based on certain behavior patterns. We do this not only to others but to ourselves too. We get stuck with limiting beliefs. We use labels not only on behaviors but also appearance and qualities of style and work.

This is how we get judgmental and tend to generalize.  Although labelling may start on a fun or casual note it can leave a lasting impression. Like a father repeatedly calling his son stupid… even if the child is not stupid he puts himself into a box, brings about his own definition of stupid impacting his self-worth.

When positive adjectives are used they can work as morale boosters but negative labels bring about guilt, shame, anger and discontentment.

Labelling can be harmful to the extent the individual also gets treated differently based on the adjectives that have been used. We would instantly get wary of someone who has been labelled as a liar.

A person is more than a label and it is advisable to give the other the benefit of doubt before generalizing.  Yes we do expect certain behavior traits from say a policeman or a postman!

By not labelling people we can deal with them in a more relaxed, open minded and flexible manner.

Appreciating with the right choice of words and correcting behavior  with the appropriate statements is a service provided by life coach Mr. Praveen Saanker at Tatvamasi.

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Broaden your Horizon / Life Coaching Services

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.” 

Lifestyles do call for change at times.…..that calls for effort…that calls for practice…that calls for sustaining…that calls for maintaining….till that call becomes a habit. Yes they are all inter related and inter linked. A strong drive to achieve, for example can be, career goals, weight loss, weight gain, following a hobby, pursuing a sport etc.

Intentions may be good but they need to convert. Building castles in the air is living in an unrealistic world of hopes and plans, and that bubble is likely to burst.

 Get up….wake up…. Move……Dream ….dream about your goal…work towards your goal…take the first step and with each step you will get closer to what you would like to achieve  broadening your horizon.

Now to the excuses ….. I feel lazy, I don’t have time, there’s a lot of work pressure, I don’t have a support system, I get back late,  going to a gym is way too expensive, I don’t have company, its difficult to diet, ..…excuses can be plenty but your goal is one.

The reason we make excuses is because we don’t feel motivated. We don’t seem to understand the proverb a stitch in time saves nine. We tend to procrastinate.  Motivation comes from within an individual. Quick fix solutions for motivation are energy boosters like instant desktop exercises, an energy bar, being with friends, listening to music, watching a movie,  calling  a friend etc, however these are short lived and do not get deep rooted.

 Adopting healthy habits and practices can stimulate your metabolism and fulfil your drives. For enduring results and lasting solutions reach us at Tatvamasi to understand more on the movement of energy.

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Mirror mirror on the wall …./Life Coaching

We have heard this phrase through the fairy tales in our junior school. The mirror just reflects our physical appearance. What we see and how we see bounces back to us. Our thoughts, views, opinions, identifications, attachments, associations, perceptions are a reflection of our persona. If we see a pretty image in the mirror that is our perception. If we see a fat image in the mirror that’s our perception.

No matter what we do, we will accumulate wrinkles, we will age, we will change and we will continually either be disappointed in our image or be appreciative.  If, instead, we focus on a purposeful life, and keep our intellectual, social and spiritual life energized we will be able to look at ourselves in the mirror and say,   “I love you. You are the best and beautiful”

Our innermost being is like the mirror. Things pass in front of a mirror. Hunger and satiety, different seasons, childhood and old age, birth or death whatsoever happens, happens before the mirror , it never happens to the mirror.

The mirror does not cling. The mirror does not retain the reflection. The mirror does not compare or make choices. There is no good and bad to a mirror. There is no positive and negative. There is no like or dislike. The mirror has no identity and does not get identified by things happening around. The mirror stays pure, innocent and virgin, transparent and naked. There are no blemishes.

This analogy maybe profound. To that of a Buddha or pure awareness. The Buddha lives in the here and now. There is no judgment and there is no carrying of the past or castles of the future. The Buddha lives moment to moment. breath by breath, inhaling and exhaling. Out with the old in with the new.

We all have Buddhahood in us. But to awaken ,to realise that we are Buddha’s in our own ways is the journey.

Discover your Buddhahood through Life Coaching services by Mr Praveen Saanker in a calm and serene ambience.

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NUT-rition / Counselling for eating disorders

 

Diet and You

Is food a way of distraction from your anxiety?

How supportive has your family been when you have suggested changes in diet?

What strong beliefs do your family members and friends hold on nutrition?

Do you keep making excuses for not watching your weight?

Are the efforts you make on diets very short lasting?

What blocks are you carrying on diet and nutrition?

Have you tried dietary plans and failed?

Are you bingeing?

Are you depriving yourself from your favorite foods?  Why?

Is your weight managing you or you managing your weight?

Have you done group dieting? Competitive

Have you tried dieting under supervision?

Have you changed diets as per the latest fad?

Have you dieted only to meet short term goals – wedding or for girl / boyfriend?

Have you dieted just because people call you Fat?

Have you dieted due to peer pressure?

The questions can be many on DIET and YOU.  How is it impacting you.? Have you noticed the changes you desired?

Or did you just Spiral out of control……

Come chat with us on eating disorders. http://tatvamasi.co/eating_disorders.html

 

 

 

 

 

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De clutter the Maze / Life coaching services

We walk into a mall and we are exposed to varied options and choices for shopping. We may visit the mall for a specific reason but sometimes that reason gets relegated to the background and we end up succumbing to our temptations. Post purchase dissonance is the psychological unease that a customer experiences after a purchase of a product or service.  Buyer feels remorse and goes through a confusion of thoughts and justifications on the purchase. Should he have bought it / what if he waited for offers / why he didn’t choose another item /.why not another color etc….there are a series of questions which start running in his mind. And the mind itself finds the justifications. Ultimately we may want the product we bought or it may just get shelved into a corner.

We shop according to our needs, wants, status, wallet size, family influence, age, lifestyle, and the likes. We shop impulsively sometimes.

We keep collecting things, clothes, furnishings, artifacts, toys, stamps, coins and many other things. We tend to fill up every available space.

Similarly we fill up our minds with a lot of clutter and fog our vision. We are exposed to a lot of stimulus through the day and we tend to get identified with many undesirable stimuli . We get involved unnecessarily in matters not related to us, getting into gossip, loose talks, unwanted chitter-chatter, interfere in matters of no concern to us, give unwarranted advice, useless forwards.  We reach a stage when we feel fatigued ,tired and stressed. We are responsible for bringing ourselves to that situation.

We get caught up in the maze .We have not learnt to step back and watch. Contact us at Tatvamasi to find your way out of the maze , with a clear route map and directions.

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