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Broaden your Horizon / Life Coaching Services

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.” 

Lifestyles do call for change at times.…..that calls for effort…that calls for practice…that calls for sustaining…that calls for maintaining….till that call becomes a habit. Yes they are all inter related and inter linked. A strong drive to achieve, for example can be, career goals, weight loss, weight gain, following a hobby, pursuing a sport etc.

Intentions may be good but they need to convert. Building castles in the air is living in an unrealistic world of hopes and plans, and that bubble is likely to burst.

 Get up….wake up…. Move……Dream ….dream about your goal…work towards your goal…take the first step and with each step you will get closer to what you would like to achieve  broadening your horizon.

Now to the excuses ….. I feel lazy, I don’t have time, there’s a lot of work pressure, I don’t have a support system, I get back late,  going to a gym is way too expensive, I don’t have company, its difficult to diet, ..…excuses can be plenty but your goal is one.

The reason we make excuses is because we don’t feel motivated. We don’t seem to understand the proverb a stitch in time saves nine. We tend to procrastinate.  Motivation comes from within an individual. Quick fix solutions for motivation are energy boosters like instant desktop exercises, an energy bar, being with friends, listening to music, watching a movie,  calling  a friend etc, however these are short lived and do not get deep rooted.

 Adopting healthy habits and practices can stimulate your metabolism and fulfil your drives. For enduring results and lasting solutions reach us at Tatvamasi to understand more on the movement of energy.

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Mirror mirror on the wall …./Life Coaching

We have heard this phrase through the fairy tales in our junior school. The mirror just reflects our physical appearance. What we see and how we see bounces back to us. Our thoughts, views, opinions, identifications, attachments, associations, perceptions are a reflection of our persona. If we see a pretty image in the mirror that is our perception. If we see a fat image in the mirror that’s our perception.

No matter what we do, we will accumulate wrinkles, we will age, we will change and we will continually either be disappointed in our image or be appreciative.  If, instead, we focus on a purposeful life, and keep our intellectual, social and spiritual life energized we will be able to look at ourselves in the mirror and say,   “I love you. You are the best and beautiful”

Our innermost being is like the mirror. Things pass in front of a mirror. Hunger and satiety, different seasons, childhood and old age, birth or death whatsoever happens, happens before the mirror , it never happens to the mirror.

The mirror does not cling. The mirror does not retain the reflection. The mirror does not compare or make choices. There is no good and bad to a mirror. There is no positive and negative. There is no like or dislike. The mirror has no identity and does not get identified by things happening around. The mirror stays pure, innocent and virgin, transparent and naked. There are no blemishes.

This analogy maybe profound. To that of a Buddha or pure awareness. The Buddha lives in the here and now. There is no judgment and there is no carrying of the past or castles of the future. The Buddha lives moment to moment. breath by breath, inhaling and exhaling. Out with the old in with the new.

We all have Buddhahood in us. But to awaken ,to realise that we are Buddha’s in our own ways is the journey.

Discover your Buddhahood through Life Coaching services by Mr Praveen Saanker in a calm and serene ambience.

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NUT-rition / Counselling for eating disorders

 

Diet and You

Is food a way of distraction from your anxiety?

How supportive has your family been when you have suggested changes in diet?

What strong beliefs do your family members and friends hold on nutrition?

Do you keep making excuses for not watching your weight?

Are the efforts you make on diets very short lasting?

What blocks are you carrying on diet and nutrition?

Have you tried dietary plans and failed?

Are you bingeing?

Are you depriving yourself from your favorite foods?  Why?

Is your weight managing you or you managing your weight?

Have you done group dieting? Competitive

Have you tried dieting under supervision?

Have you changed diets as per the latest fad?

Have you dieted only to meet short term goals – wedding or for girl / boyfriend?

Have you dieted just because people call you Fat?

Have you dieted due to peer pressure?

The questions can be many on DIET and YOU.  How is it impacting you.? Have you noticed the changes you desired?

Or did you just Spiral out of control……

Come chat with us on eating disorders. http://tatvamasi.co/eating_disorders.html

 

 

 

 

 

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Raising Children / Life Coaching services

Raising children maybe a daunting task. It’s one sphere where there is no prior experience. But to welcome the new born happily, watch it grow and glow is a full time parenting responsibility.

We all learn with mistakes and parents are no exception. There is a lot of trial and error that takes place. Both parents and the children get groomed in the process.

 What are the essentials which parents need to share and impart to children —–

  • First and foremost the parents need to be happy and content. A happy and fun atmosphere is the perfect ambience to bring up a child.
  • Parents should entrust children with little tasks like making their beds, stacking their toys, arranging their desks, packing their school bags and the like. This makes the children feel responsible.
  • Parents should appreciate and encourage the children for their efforts without expecting perfection. This helps in building their confidence.
  • Parents help children build relationships. Through acts of kindness within the family of offering, sharing and caring parents teach children empathy and to relate to others.
  • Parents should teach children kindness towards animals as well. Children should be exposed to nature and its gifts.
  • Children are high energy balls. This energy needs to be channelised in the right direction of creative arts/sports etc
  • Parents should lead by example what they expect from their children.
  • Moral values and discipline have to be to instilled to children
  • Children are naturally curious, .this quality should be encouraged. Parents can abstain from using words like boredom. Children don’t understand the meaning of this word as they are always enthusiastic.
  • Children need to be watched and assessed to understand their strengths and skills

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De clutter the Maze / Life coaching services

We walk into a mall and we are exposed to varied options and choices for shopping. We may visit the mall for a specific reason but sometimes that reason gets relegated to the background and we end up succumbing to our temptations. Post purchase dissonance is the psychological unease that a customer experiences after a purchase of a product or service.  Buyer feels remorse and goes through a confusion of thoughts and justifications on the purchase. Should he have bought it / what if he waited for offers / why he didn’t choose another item /.why not another color etc….there are a series of questions which start running in his mind. And the mind itself finds the justifications. Ultimately we may want the product we bought or it may just get shelved into a corner.

We shop according to our needs, wants, status, wallet size, family influence, age, lifestyle, and the likes. We shop impulsively sometimes.

We keep collecting things, clothes, furnishings, artifacts, toys, stamps, coins and many other things. We tend to fill up every available space.

Similarly we fill up our minds with a lot of clutter and fog our vision. We are exposed to a lot of stimulus through the day and we tend to get identified with many undesirable stimuli . We get involved unnecessarily in matters not related to us, getting into gossip, loose talks, unwanted chitter-chatter, interfere in matters of no concern to us, give unwarranted advice, useless forwards.  We reach a stage when we feel fatigued ,tired and stressed. We are responsible for bringing ourselves to that situation.

We get caught up in the maze .We have not learnt to step back and watch. Contact us at Tatvamasi to find your way out of the maze , with a clear route map and directions.

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Happy Parents raise Happy Children / Life coaching for Parents

Parenting is like on the job training. It is a skill. No matter how many books we read or watch other parents, each of us deal with different emotions, at different stages and different ages. There is a huge mix match and blend of scenarios. Dealing with emotions that too of children can be a challenging affair. Parents  tend to over pamper their children to cover their guilt factor or get too possessive based on some in -built fears they may be breeding . They misinterpret that over pampering and possessiveness are liked by the kids but in fact it leads to an adverse effect.. Misplaced adoration takes a toll on children. They tend to get manipulative.  Children are not able to communicate due to their age constrictions and parents are not able to comprehend due to their cluttered minds. This results in a complicated and difficult situation for both the parents and children.

But the bottom line is parents are the best coach for their children. Children watch and observe their parents and tend to imitate. Even if a child goes through coaching there is a substantial amount of time spent with the parents and teachers during the counselling session.

A coach may suggest ways and methods as remedies for   a child with behavioural issues.  However it is upto parents to monitor the progress of their own children to provide feedback to the coach. As the primary agent in the socialisation process in the upbringing and exposure of the child,  parents need to take up the onus and responsibility to lead their wards on.

Children need timely attention, space to grow up and the right exposures. Meet our Life coach Mr Praveen Saanker to get equipped with parenting tools to maintain a balance in your hectic life.

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Food ..for Thought / Counselling

ब्रह्मार्पणं ब्रह्म हविर्ब्रह्माग्नौ ब्रह्मणा हुतम्  ।

ब्रह्मैव तेन गन्तव्यं ब्रह्मकर्मसमाधिना  ॥२४॥

brahmārpaṇaṁ brahma havir brahmāgnau brahmaṇā hutam /

brahmaiva tena gantavyaṁ brahmakarmasamādhinā //24//

The act of offering is Brahman, the oblation is Brahman,
By Brahman it is offered into the fire of Brahman.
Brahman is That which is to be attained by s/he
who performs actions pertaining to Brahman.

Are you convinced that antibiotics are not the cure for illness?

Do you believe that changes in your diet can bring about a change in your life?

Do you believe that nutrition and food choices are the foundations of good health?

Have you ever considered why the nagging aches and pains are not leaving you?

Want to know how to combat diabetes and blood sugar through lifestyle changes?

Its not just what we eat and how we eat but the important question is when we eat. By and large people follow the clock and eat breakfast lunch dinner according to the time factor.. But there is a biological rhythm and a biological clock that is in motion. The body sends out feelings of hunger. We get hunger pangs…are you sure you are hungry??? Have you tried drinking a glass of water at that time?? Eating style and choices are formed and developed by habit.

Nutrition is a must. Like Swami Yukteshwar had once told Paramahansa Yogananda when the latter was extremely hungry and remarked I will die if I don’t eat and the former replied  die if you must Mukunda. you do not live by food alone.

This takes us to the awareness about fasting and feasting. In some communities .Certain periods/months/days are observed for fasting or the abstention of meat and select practices. This works like detoxification and cleanses the body and mind.

So when do we eat – this is vital and we learn and cultivate this through the awareness of understanding our body. Like we slowly respect food and say our prayers sending out blessings from the farmer to the server of the food similarly we become aware of the nutrition that our body needs and how much to consume. This does  not mean  we sit with a calorie calculator and get obsessed. This is developed gradually especially in our fast paced world of easy access to junk food .

Gratitude and mindfulness are said to transform food from mere sustenance into manna.

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Life Coaching for Children

Is your child have problems with social skills?

Have you received complaints about ant-social behaviour about your child?

Is your child being abusive and displaying violent behaviour ?

Is your child lying ?

Are there any reports of bullying ?

Yes to these questions means the child needs addressing and attention. It is difficult for parents and teachers to identify the challenges posed by the children.  It does take time to differentiate between a misbehaved child and a child with abnormal behavior. Understanding, right guidance, motivation and plenty of encouragement, enable kids to develop confidence, determination, resilience and strong emotional intelligence.

There is no standard rule for raising children. As parents we give in our best and do our best in bringing up our kids to the best of our abilities. There  is however a reflection of our own socialization process and we try not to make the mistakes our parents committed. But where we falter is when we try to fulfil our wishes and dreams through our kids. This causes an altercation and dysfunction.

Parenting  leaves an impact on children as they mirror the attitude and behavior of parents. An abusive father can be the cause of a child developing fear . Parents not giving attention to children, the child may seek attention from the peer group or in unwarranted relationships. Over possessiveness, pampering, neglecting, succumbing to tantrums, no one-on-one time, pressurizing, beating are some of the mistakes parents make.

Poor academic achievement, bullying, stealing, anger, stress, attention deficit,, divorced parents, social skills difficulties, health issues, sibling rivalry undue expectation from teachers and parents,  are some of the challenges faced by children.

Mr Praveen Saanker as the life coach serves as the bridge between the parents and the children  to bring about harmony and cordial relations by the following tools –

Identify triggers or causes for negative behaviors or emotions

Appreciate and compliment when required

Introduce and expose children to sports/music/art

Understanding the child and the difficulties

Build higher self esteem and increased confidence

Changing the view of parents/teachers

Techniques for managing emotions

Role play

Story telling

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Attitude / Psychological counselling

The way we carry ourselves, behave, reciprocate, our body language, our outlook, speaks about our attitude.

To carry an air of confidence, to be able to skillfully communicate  the dress sense, the demeanor reflects a persons attitude. It doesn’t necessarily have to be with physical appearance but also with the viewpoints a person may hold regarding people, events or situations.

Nowadays it has become symptomatic to get judgmental about a person with a negative outlook demeaning the person as arrogant or disrespectful.

Attitudes are developed through past experiences, ingrained in our perceptions and this naturally gets reflected in our behavior. People with perpetual attitude problems polluting the environment with their presence making it toxic need a serious look at themselves. They are capable of changing a fun environment to depressing with their radical behavior.

Whenever there is an accumulation of unresolved negative emotion, a person will lean toward high levels of irrational or unwarranted reactivity. A pessimistic outlook, constantly complaining and having a jaded opinion on people and situations leaves a bitter taste.

This is an indication that a shift in perspective is much-needed. If you’re able to see patterns where you’re overly reactive, defensive, self-righteous, or just plain negative, you’re someone who’s dealing with an attitude problem.  This can be reflective in repetitive failing relationships or people giving you their feedback on your behavior. To some extent, each of us have bad days and display behaviors that can be problematic or not very conducive to the environment. However this is not a disorder but needs core corrections in behavioral patterns.

A change in perception can bring about a change in the chemistry of the body.

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Life is…… // Life Coaching

Life is ….

Life is a Flow….

Life is a Flow like a river …..

Life is a Flow like a river with energy in motion …..

Life is a Flow like a river with energy in motion passing through rocks and boulders….

Life is a Flow like a river with energy in motion passing through pebbles, rocks and boulders carrying with it mud and dirt…

Life is a Flow like a river with energy in motion passing through pebbles, rocks and boulders carrying with it mud and dirt, although it started from the pristine beauty of the mountains…

Life is a Flow like a river with energy in motion passing through pebbles, rocks and boulders carrying with it mud and dirt, although it started from the pristine beauty of the mountains, it keeps changing its course…

Life is a Flow like a river with energy in motion passing through pebbles, rocks and boulders carrying with it mud and dirt, although it started from the pristine beauty of the mountains, it keeps changing its course progressing towards the gigantic ocean ….

Life is a Flow like a river with energy in motion passing through pebbles, rocks and boulders carrying with it mud and dirt, although it started from the pristine beauty of the mountains, it keeps changing its course progressing towards the gigantic ocean until it merges with the sea…..

Life is a Flow like a river with energy in motion passing through pebbles, rocks and boulders carrying with it mud and dirt, although it started from the pristine beauty of the mountains, it keeps changing its course progressing towards the gigantic ocean until it merges with the sea….. And it keeps flowing……

Yes we all face obstacles, hurdles, difficulties, challenges …life goes on. How we deal with these challenges and how we convert these challenges to opportunities is what makes life interesting. Our evolution rests on this foundation and we keep building on this brick by brick.

Reach us at Tatvamasi for a discussion with Mr Praveen Saanker to understand the nuances of life and its varied streams.

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